I messaged the rest of the staff regarding your concerns. Since we’re not on the forums very often, it’s going to take some time before they see this and for us to figure out what we should do. Please take it easy while we hash this out.
Thanks. I'll try to fill in some blanks. I'll do a bullet point list first. If you got any questions about any of what I state here just ask.
1: I once lost someone to suicide online due to lack of communicaiton and "just roleplay". I had to learn from that. It's why I push for communication more. Online is never "safe". Danger doesn't have to be a bad thing.
2: I have real talks online. Due to the above. Goes a lot better. Until abusive mods are control freaks at least. Just means they already lost control. Fear is
NEVER control.
3: A few misunderstandings with some people happened due to them avoiding commnication. It seems a report or two caused the mods to get paranoid.
4: People thank me for telling them I'm the danger. It's more honest. What are the mods worrying about then?
5: The moment I got banned was when I was talking in the dragon room about "Why treat anyone as if they don't even exist". All that happened is that one person got a bit confussed and another hugged it out with me because they understood. Zephy understood. I'd get banned shortly after.
6: I know what,
specifically, drives people into destructive situations. It's very
specific things.
7: Control isn't forced. That's just the illusion of control. The mods fear of others being involved is exactly why it happened. "Fear itself." Refer to point 2.
8: People with suicidal tendencies, from the site, were put in the middle. All because the mods didn't try to hold a conversation with me. It's only ever been "Last word in" with them. It only proves how wrong the F-chat mods are when they cling to assumptions and lies.
9: One of the mods admitted to mishandling me. This is a
COMMUNICATION situation. Not a "Keep being a control freak" situation. Again, they didn't try to hold a conversation. the stupid idiots keep falling for the
ILLUSION of control. Oh, I'm going to enjoy
breaking them now. They brought this on themselves.
10: Holding conversations does work when people
HOLD those conversations. Just got to hold them down somehow. If people resist then one must persist. It's the absuive F-chat mods that are resisting. they're not in control. They're pretending. Lying to themselves. Let's remind them of that.
11: ex mods caution against blindly agreeing with everything. Refer to point 1. What if the F-chat mods have done it without even realizing? It almost slipped my attention. What if this has happend repeatedly? That's my concern here.
12: agreements aren't forced. People will tick those agree boxes regardless. Blindly following rules is dangerous. It can and does cost people their sanity and lives. This is very common. Online and in real life alike.
QUESTION this. It's your sanity. Consider it. Because I do.
13: People don't know what's best if they can't even ask or try to understand. Being demanding/entitled is NOT how to do it. use force, sure, but not like that.
14: When people avoid communication they are no longer able to make clear, well informed decisions. In which case hunt down cowards until communication. And if people take issue with being called cowards then consider that only the truth will bother you.
15: I do know the danger better. I never block anyone online. I have a good memory. It's quite keen. I can remember the most subtle of details. I think people are afraid of being caught when they're in denial. It's all that makes sense.
16: F-chat mods keep voiding talking about the danger of good intentions. People haved died because of good intentions. Refer to point 12. Context: It's better to be honest about bad intentions. Everyone is guilty.
17:
Trying to avoid communication is tryng to avoid accountability. This is conflict avoidance/stonewall abuse. It's not JUST abuse though. It's the WORST form of abuse. Which I would not do to anyone, for any reason. People don't understand the danger. I do.
18: Problem?
FACE! If those mods didn't want others involved then why did they put me in a situation where I had no other choice but to involve other people? They chose that.
19: The F-chat mods are very black and white about things. Other people won't speak up because why would they if they refuse to even listen? My main concern here is how people suffer in silence. I
know what that does to people. There's also topics about F-chat from 7 years ago talking about how the good mods left.
20: I talked to cops at this point. I'm a hairs breath from informing them about the danger of F-chat ignoring concerns to that extent. If I say "danger" and "Good intentions can get people killed from ignorance", and no one says anything about it, then my concern is for the sanity/lives of the people on the site.
21: Other mods confirm my concerns. You seem to be understanding mods as well from what I have seen. I grew up knowing XXX kind of abuse myself.
22: I state "Holding conversations is backed up by threapists". People still pretend I should just "go away" (users on reddit. Mods themselves have't stated that). So, what, they think they know better then what is backed up by the professionals themselves?
23: At no point have I ever avoided, blocked or pretended to be innocent. Did the F-chat mods ban themselves for being "danger" then? Of course not. The rules don't exist for "you". They exist
ONLY for them.
24: Mods in the hell sim on Second Life understand better. I had this good understanding talk with a mod there once. They just reached out to me and asked me if I was ok. We talked about online danger/mod abuse and they were undertanding and confirmed my concerns. The cops that talked to me asked if they could help me too. Trying to fish of course. But I told them I know their tactics. We laughed. Things aren't as scary as people fear. Just don't trust the fear. Fear is a lie. Can't just magically get people to overcome it of course, but just keeping it in mind helps a lot. It means "You assume".
25: F-chat mods have been different each time. So there's this big communication gap due to none of them holding a conversation with me. They don't seem to realize they are what they hate. I get people to realize that when holding the harder conversations. But the conversations must be
HELD. See point 22
26: I'm the kind of person that will sit there all week to address concerns if I have too. In chat. etc. Mods are ignoring the people on their own site. Not just me.
27: Steam and Ferzu have it worse. But that's another story. Noticed how no mods speaking with "the people" causes bigger problems? It all comes back to lack of communication. Refer to point 25.
28: These problems don't happen in places where people aren't being control freaks. People just play. Without it being forced. Likely because people aren't "stuck" with concerns.
29: People break the rules they make. See the problem? Refer to point 23.
30: The problem is expectations.
Know what I expect?
Nothing.
In short, people fear their own reflection. That's
ALL you can fear. That fear does not rule me.
I'm going to see how this plays out for now. Just so you know, I do have good relations with the cops. We laugh and ****.
So what are people even worrying about?