Thought about how different the culture is here Vs the country I grew up in.
Here the teachers are nice and fun. My kid's teacher threatened to shoot students with a Nerf if they don't complete an assignment by the deadline, and he followed through. I know because my kid told me he was a target when he didn't finish his work. They are also more flexible with individual academic goals. Kids don't get much homework or sit many tests/exams, and they are so sooooooo disrespectful.
Whereas in the other country, we got sent home every day with heavy bags full of homework for every subject due back the next day. If we misbehaved or didn't follow class rules, we got punished physically in front of the whole class. And this was OK with our parents. Some parents even encouraged and applauded teachers to discipline their kids by any means. I know I was lucky to be a girl. Boys were still getting beat with leather or wooden spatulas in high school. Majority of kids got beat at home, too. With plastic pipes, and high heeled shoes, and belts, whatever was nearest to the parent in the moment. A lot of families had a sambok or wooden spoon engraved with some stupid name specifically for beatings. It worked to keep kids in their place. It worked to motivate kids to work hard and work well : this is why South Africans are known as some of the hardest workers out there (mind you, I think we're in a tie with Koreans).
This method didn't create respect, though. Shutting up and doing as you're told because the other option is a beating, is not respect. It's fear. And you get to a point, I think, for me and a few others, where you become desensitized to pain and fear. You become outspoken. You crave confrontation. I got to a stage as a kid where I just couldn't stand authority. Don't tell me what to do. You can't make me. Try it, bring it on, but I'm not budging. And I'm still like that, to my perfectionist husband's dismay.
So I was thinking about the school songs kids sing these days...at sports and such...I don't think they have what we had. A thankful song to sing on the bus on the way back from a school trip. Or a song to express our favour for a teacher. We sang about how they are bakgat.
I wanted to tell my kids about it so had to translate it. It hit me that bakgat means badass. I'm over 30 and I never realised this. I am so ashamed. I mean...HOW?