What Are You Thinking?
- Thread starter NotSoAwesomeFaise
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Is it 'cause they got nothin' better to do? :laugh:
Joking, of course.
How's this for a password? 19j319j8e3fh48chailrfhr78lol
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I don't know what he says because I have no sound, at all, on my laptop...:shifty:
Then we must be a rare breed because every other parent I know IRL keeps insisting their lives revolve around their kids. I am sure that's all fine for them but for me, I'd rather all mine grew up capable of leaving home without feeling guilty for "abandoning" me. When my raising time is over, I am turning Jessica's room into a library and the boys' room will be knocked through with the bathroom to make one gigantic bathroom with sunken bath and underfloor heating.
Just an idea...
That seems to be the case where I live, too. Or they're really good at pretending, at any rate.
I think what annoys me the most is, if you dare to stick up for parenting approach, they assume it makes you "selfish", somehow.
Yes, because being anything besides a "mother" when you have kids is just insanity...Gee, I didn't know we were one-dimensional characters!/sarcasm.
And agreed; I want my kid to grow up to be a capable, independent adult. I mean sh*t, it's not like we never see them again, once they strike out on their own.
Thinking about how much my back hurts. My grandfather and I hand-breaded and fried 40lbs of fish for my great grandmother's church get together today. x_x We really should have charged admission.
I'd say they're good at pretending. If having babies is so wonderful, then why are women so likely to get PND or even Prenatal depression?
Just seems like a bunch of women kidding themselves that it's the right thing to do or else they are selfish, and then having a breakdown in private because they've been taught to give over their whole selves when they become mothers and don't have a clue who they are anymore.
It's sad that it's become like this. There needs to be more openness and honestly when it comes to the reality of babies and deciding to have children. There also needs to be a lot less judgement, but I guess it's human nature to be that way.
Get my female friends on their own, the ones with babies, and they tell me how much they regret it, and if they could do it all again, they wouldn't have children. Yet they put on a happy face in public and try to appear normal because they're scared of being judged.
I gave them links to find support at mothering forums, but it seems to have made it worse because of the amount of judgemental, polarising nutcases on there.
I think the whole selfish labelling from other women comes from guilt that they could be bad mothers, so they project their own negative feelings onto other women to make themselves feel better.
It makes the whole experience even more unbearable when a women already has problems with depression.
The kind who say that their purpose in life was to have babies and they make internet posts about how their child does this that and the other, right? I'm sure it's great for the parent, or they're doing it for some kind of pathetic boasting to other parents, but to everyone else, their child is not special and the world does not revolve around it.
The worst are the ones who say women don't know true love till they have a baby. So, a woman never truly loved her husband, or loved her parents and siblings?
Then there are cases of women pouring their hearts out on forums about how they're not coping and having second thoughts about being a mother, only to be called monsters or abnormal by other mothers.
And the women who say that they instantly love their babies as soon as they're born and that the father will never compete with that kind of love and bond. Totally insulting to dads and women, may of whom don't feel that instant bond. Sometimes it takes weeks, months, or even years.
Rubbish like that is what gives being a mother a bad name.
At least you don't see your children as being indentured servants for you in old age. Besides, the way things are these days, it's the children returning to their parents to be looked after.
So, my husband keeps singing the same two songs over and over again...
I'm not exaggerating, he's been doing it for the last hour and a half.
He's about five days in, quitting smoking...and he's in a really good mood. He figures the smokes may have been responsible for curbing his childhood ADHD.
I'm beginning to agree with him.
I'm not exaggerating, he's been doing it for the last hour and a half.
He's about five days in, quitting smoking...and he's in a really good mood. He figures the smokes may have been responsible for curbing his childhood ADHD.
I'm beginning to agree with him.
Just saw the Lego movie with a friend and her son, and it was actually pretty good.
I wouldn't mind seeing it again if another friend wants to take her kid to see it.
I wouldn't mind seeing it again if another friend wants to take her kid to see it.
I have some truly incredible friends at church - cannot fathom how I managed before without them
That only took forever and a day. :dead:
So glad I'm finally done that chapter. For reasons beyond my understanding, that was really challenging.
Still, I won't deny-I love the high that comes when I finish writing another chapter.
So glad I'm finally done that chapter. For reasons beyond my understanding, that was really challenging.
Still, I won't deny-I love the high that comes when I finish writing another chapter.
The more seen or popular my work gets the more weird-ass/random type comments I should expect... yep, check
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i am so bored but if i go out for a spin on the r1 my woman will kill me she won‘t let me drive the bike since our daughter was born. She doesn‘t want me to drag race my ef9 either. I understand her point but god it makes passing the time so much harder when you can‘t do what you love without a guilt trip
i am so bored but if i go out for a spin on the r1 my woman will kill me she won‘t let me drive the bike since our daughter was born. She doesn‘t want me to drag race my ef9 either. I understand her point but god it makes passing the time so much harder when you can‘t do what you love without a guilt trip
Would that be a Yamaha R1? Sweet.
I'd love to ride a bike, but I'm not too confident. The most I've ever done is hopped on the back of a Ducati when my Dad took one of his out, and I went to the bike race at the Isle of Man. That was pretty awesome. It's fascinating to see all the mods and custom jobs that enthusiasts can have made.
It must be boring not being able to ride, but I understand the concerns. You're a parent now and it's a big responsibility. If you have a bad accident or even worse, die, then what? Especially if you're the one who earns all of the money, it makes the responsibility even greater when a child is involved.
Stick it out, I'm sure you'll be allowed to ride soon. :happy:
Thinking: Darned greedy government and their 40% inheritance tax. No wonder people are finding ways to get around it.
yep its a 1000cc yamaha r1 i also have a suzuki gsxr 750cc I am driving bikes 10 years and in ireland where i am there is no traffic but she is worried all the same even though i keep my aggressive and speedy driving for the track and drag strip. I just wanna cruise around is all but i can wait. She might calm a bit once she is back to work herse@f.
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I think it is disgusting. If someone is a bajillionaire and dies then that is one thing but usually the inheritance tax hits hardest those whose loved ones have owned a decently priced property and it just hits the threshold for needing to be taxed.
Like those people haven't already paid enough tax during their lifetime, now their relatives have to foot a bill which no one expected. We got smacked with a huge bill for inheritance tax a few years ago and it was a number that still makes me angry now - and it was ONLY due to property. And I'm not talking mansions or anything either - just a standard semi. Two days after the bill, they changed the threshold so that had it all happened just a little later, there would have been no tax at all.
When my grandmother died at the age of almost 90, she had about £3000 to her name to divide between 4 kids and 9 grandchildren. She also had a property which of course by that age had been paid for in full...unfortunately, it had become a listed building in recent years and the value had shot up significantly because it was in a nice part of Sussex near a historical site etc. So began 2 years of legal nonsense to get the tax paid and the money distributed - 2 years of upset for her children, basically.
Sorry, ranting now - tax annoys me when it hits people who barely meet the requirement but the law states they have to pay up regardless of circumstance.