Loopy
Devil hunter in training
Good for you for doing that!:thumbsup: Sadly, other children can be cruel and mean, especially with SEN children. I've seen it happen. Hopefully, this will be the only time something like that happens for you. It's not acceptable for children to be like that to others.So I went to pick up my kids from school, as per usual my daughter had found her way to the playground. Got her bag (I'm so happy I haven't accidentally picked up another kids' bag all this year because everyone seems to have the same bloomin bags) and went hunting for her after losing sight of the boys. A couple of girls in her class come up to me and (the tattletales they are) tells me that she did something inappropriate, which I shall not publicly name. First reaction is, of course, anger/embarrassment. Only of the mild sort. She is a special needs kiddo. I spot her and say 'you and I need to talk'. 'But what about, what about, what about mum?' I take her a short distance away from the watching girls and quietly say 'I heard you did some things that you shouldn't do with your clothes'.
To which she responds: But mum, they told me to do it!
Oh yes. Hell hath no fury. Walked up to the girls and very loudly (so if the women standing around looking oblivious by any chance are any of their parents, they'd take bloody notice) and snappily said 'you girls need to stop making trouble! She did those things because you told her to do it. She doesn't know any better!' and walked off.
Well I hope I ****ing embarrassed the sheit of their mama's, too. Bloody kids! I'm chatting to their teacher tomorrow morning at drop off, too, about this. There's a line, as much as I want my kid to have friends and keep friends, there is a line. They've crossed it so I don't really give a flyingoop: if I scare them off. I'd rather they stay away from her than tell her to do something worse. Maybe working with sn kids have tamed the fury that ignorance creates in me. But I'm still SO. ANGRY. If I wasn't preggers, I'd have had a glass of wine to celebrate not actually wringing any necks or cussing or screaming at the ignorance of some people.
I do believe I'm going to break a few cars and get a few disciplinary hearings into play when high school swings around. I'm unfortunately for the kiwis, one of those people who won't bat an eyelash to get hardass about my kids. I hate confrontation, but when it comes to my kids, I'M ALL FOR IT.
But just :banghead::banghead::banghead::banghead:
And I hope the other parents will take note and talk to their children about it. Sadly, some parents don't give a stuff. They're either in denial that their child can be a bully, or they think bulling in justified because a child is different somehow. I've heard of parents saying get the child who is bullied out of the school because they don't belong there and will never fit in, and they're a waste of time and resources. :facepalm:
Personally, I think whenever possible, SEN children should certainly be put in mainstream schools unless it is something very severe where the school would not be able to cope. In that case, then a specialist school would be ideal because they have staff strained properly to cope with any situation and know how to care properly for the child.
Sad thing is, if a parent in UK approached a child about bullying their child, the parent would be in trouble for confronting the bully. That's how it is these days.
