Let us know how it goes. Hopefully she's a reasonable sort of woman
Whew, it was very awkward.
I could tell from her expression when she came in that she already had an idea of what it was about, so her husband had already said something to her. It looked worse on me because I guess she must trust him a lot more than she does me, and just today he called around this morning apparently to apologize for his former behaviour, but me thinking he was the courier for my new computer chair dived out of the shower, threw on a towel and opened the door all wet and wearing towels (you have to be quick or the couriers just walk off and drive away). So he just looked very embarrassed and went away. She might have thought it was me who was being a troublemaker or something, although I could prove at least some of what I said being that my chair did arrive later on and is still lying in bits waiting for me to assemble it...
She said that her husband does have a habit of making banter and embarrassing comments and that he's really a shy person who digs himself holes by accident. I don't know what she thought of my explanation of the things he said, but apparently he had already told her about that bikini conversation AND seeing me this morning so he doesn't think he has anything to hide, and that *he* felt that bikini conversation had made him uncomfortable (but he really did start it, not me!!). I said that I didn't think I'd taken it the wrong way but I would try to consider it as unfortunate bit of banter that went wrong as long as I don't have to endure it any more. She said that she will talk to him about stopping the banter and the inappropriate comments, and make sure he doesn't come around when there is only me in the flat or unannounced. Honestly though, even though I still feel as though *he* was the one who has always made inappropriate comments all along, that I'm somehow going to be 'blamed' in their minds anyway. He probably won't come around or speak to me in person any more though, which is probably for the best.
It's a shame, I really liked this place even though it is a bit small, and now I'm probably considered a bit of a liability to them. I don't know, maybe some men think some women really enjoy pervy compliments for their self-esteem? I don't, but I get the feeling if he is innocent in all of this, that's probably his intention - to sound nice or something by paying those type of compliments, but it just freaked me out some... being that I didn't know at that point how far this was gonna go. Hopefully it won't go anywhere any more and he will just avoid me and me likewise and maybe the situation will die down rather than get any worse. I hope so.
