No point in comparing yourself to a Victoria's Secret model. They are airbrushed, use loads of makeup and good lighting, diets and extreme workouts to make them look their best. Without that, they look normal to above average; and even when these women are lucky enough to have genes that society considers desirable, they still have to do a lot of changes to their bodies to be at the standard VS wants.
Oh don't worry; I don't compare myself to them. It was just an example (because there was a point several years ago where seeing a VS commercial would literally ruin the rest of my day-yeah, I was a delicate thing, I know. Thank god it's not that bad, anymore).
Besides, with VS, the models who are a size 6 or 8 are told to slim down even more. To me, that is just crazy. Sizes 6 and 8 are already very small, and trying to force someone to be a size 4, 2 or 0 through starving, crazy diets and too many gym visits is insane.
Agreed. Hell, I'm happy when I'm sitting at a 9 (which I'm not currently, but doing what I can to get there again-reducing my intake of certain things, not just because of my weight, but because I want to improve my health, too).
I'd rather be bigger and happy than be miserable on diets just to conform to that crazy standard.
I'd rather just be 145-150 again. I don't want to conform to their b.s. expectations, but I also want to be comfortable in my own skin again. The said weight was when I had the most energy, and felt really good about myself.
Modelling just seems like a very messed up, ageist and fake industry. It gives women and girls bad self esteem, complexes over what they eat, how they look, and their age. They're even made to think that they're over the hill old when they become 25.
Agreed, it really is messed up, how they twist people's perception that way. :/
I looked up the Victoria's Secret measurements online and you have to be 34 chest, 24 waist and 34 hips and 5''9 in height. While I fit those measurements, no way in heck would I ever be persuaded into being a model. I would never go into a career that gave me a complex about how I looked, how old I was, or how I ate.
I love my cake and snacks too much, and you'd never catch me starving myself because I have enough trouble as it is keeping weight on.
Kudos.
It's refreshing to see someone that fits the "ideal" body type who doesn't have this, "If I've got it, I'm going to flaunt it" attitude. It's one thing to be happy with ones' body, but I can never stand the girls who use their figures to manipulate the people around them. Fortunately, I know quite a few people like you; I'm willing to bet you've caught flack, just for being thin, right? It's funny how there's so much being said against fat-shaming, but when the person getting picked on is naturally thin, almost no one defends them. This leads so well into one of the later parts of your post...
Everyone is beautiful and pretty in their own way. It's a shame that people are made to feel less than beautiful just because they are naturally bigger or too small.
Agreed; as long as we're healthy, that's all that should matter. Obviously there are people-anorexics and those who are obese-that clearly require some sort of help; but it isn't because of how small or big they are-it's because of the inherent risks to their health.
This media created body image is just divisive and turns women against each other.
^^^^ This! This, exactly. They keep us so damned busy clawing at one another, that we miss out on some of the actual important crap going on in the world, and in our own lives. I know this sounds like some crack-pot conspiracy theory, but I can't help thinking they've intentionally got men and women alike side-tracked with this superficial b.s. to keep us unaware of something much larger going on. It really does boil down to control over the masses.
From time to time I hear things like: women my size looks like little boys, that we're not 'real women', or we don't eat and vomit food; even though most of us are naturally small and actually would like to gain some weight.
This reminds me of one of those rotten e-cards you probably see circulating FB. The original says, "Real men prefer curves, only dogs go for bones".
That one really ****ed me off, especially since some of the people posting it were the "plus sized, low self esteem" type of women; to me, it was blatant hypocrisy. They get indignant if someone makes them feel bad about themselves, but it was okay for them to pick on the "opposite" side of the spectrum? Last I checked, no matter who we are, what our ethnicity or our size, we all feel.
Now, when I came across the modified version, I loved it, because it picks apart that hypocritical type of mentality.
"Real men like whatever the **** they want. Real women do not compare men to dogs and other women to bones."