I hate the subject of marriage being brought up. Might have considered it once, just once... but not any more.
I feel you on that. I used to nag and beg and reason and wait and wait and bring it up repeatedly after I graduated. Mainly because I didn't like the idea of living as a married couple without God's blessing and with my parents' constant condescending nagging at me to 'do the right thing'. But when you're depressed, you kinda lose track of who you are and what you stand for and why you're even here, so all my morals and standards were basically scraped down into the dunghole and I just went with it. I reached a point where the mere idea of marriage made me depressed because all it seemed to do was create conflict between me and everyone around me.So I stopped considering it and made my peace that I'm just not marriage material. Which was A OK with me in the end.
Obviously things have changed since that turning point for me, I kinda felt shocked and caught off guard when my hubby eventually proposed, and when I said 'yes' I was really thinking Oh thank you God now my mum can stop hassling me about this ****. (she didn't, btw) and being engaged didn't fix things either, considering he broke off the engagement at one point during our 2 year engagement. But, as I said, I didn't believe marriage was cut out for me so I wasn't really all that gutted when he broke it off and I didn't try to patch things up either. He did, in the end, but from that point onward he was the one who brought up the 'wedding' thing. I wanted ****all to do with it until he said, okay, we need to do it next year/in the next x amount of months.
The wedding wasn't all that spectacular, and all that cash went into a slip of paper as evidence of our marriage. Like. Whoop. Not much difference in our relationship. No more nagging from the religious parents and community, thank goodness, and no more talk of marriage, which was BLISS.
The honeymoon, however. Well, now THAT WAS FRIGGIN AWESOME.
Anyway. I have an idea how the prospect of marriage might be off putting.