You know, I really hate it when people say the reason I misinterpreted what they meant was because I didn't "read carefully." The way you worded your post made it look like you were interchanging the words "standards" and "traits." Also, the OP didn't state that they were looking for what we find most attractive or whatever. The original post was a very broad statement and I replied with what I thought.
And again, the way you worded your statement implied not being nice = murderer. I understand now that's not what you meant. So that's cool.
Although, I have to go with what Ms. Angel said. Having a pulse is pretty important to me. Not a fan of zombies.
I don't see how you could confuse the word 'standards' with 'personality traits', but if I was not clear enough, I'm sorry. I simply asked if you had any standards for people to fit if you wanted to have an excellent relationship with them. As in: what traits would they ideally have? Don't tell me you don't have any standards... I'm sure you were drawn to certain people for certain reasons. You made friends with certain people because they had appealing character traits. You (possibly) fell in love with someone due to their character traits. Which ones?
I didn't mean that not being nice equates to being a murderer, because that would be an idiotic thing to say.
The TS did not mean ''what are the best traits of a person in general''. Because obviously there are none! Everyone will agree with you that one trait is not (objectively speaking) more important than the other. The TS himself even said: ''
for me it's the motivation to fight''. The 'for me' part indicates subjectivity. The only quality that might objectively be the most important is a sense of morality - as in, not to kill people, maim them or anything like that. Because killing/wounding causes emotional pain, you cut a life short, and you have no right to. The TS meant: ''to you
personally (subjectively), what are the best traits for somebody to have?'' If you wanted to marry somebody, you'd have certain standards. That's a fact. The same goes for when you choose your friends: they have certain qualities you value above other qualities. Some people fall in love with people more easily because they are
funny. Others because they are
intelligent. And some people feel that they themselves should have certain traits, like generosity. This thread is about our
preferences, not about 'what traits in general are the most important ones'. There is no 'ranking' of traits, except for the one in our minds. And that subjective ranking is what we are sharing in this thread.