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[Vergillicious]

So is it OK if your in a relationship and your boyfriend watches porn? Would you accept it? Does it make you feel that he's not attracted to you anymore?

 

[The Good Gentleman]

Uh...no? :/ The whole point of porn is to....accelerate the pre-sex process. A lot of times, couples have trouble getting it on at first, so porn is there to help them get in the mood. It's like the blue and pink pills, only without introducing chemicals in your body.

As for him watching it himself, same thing really. Or maybe it's like....a reference manual lol? I knew this girl who had this move, the "drop and twist", claimed she saw it off a porn vid.

Or...that too much information? You know, no! You asked.

 

[Vergillicious]

Uh...no? :/ The whole point of porn is to....accelerate the pre-sex process. A lot of times, couples have trouble getting it on at first, so porn is there to help them get in the mood. It's like the blue and pink pills, only without introducing chemicals in your body.

As for him watching it himself, same thing really. Or maybe it's like....a reference manual lol? I knew this girl who had this move, the "drop and twist", claimed she saw it off a porn vid.

Or...that too much information? You know, no! You asked.

I just want advice is the reason why I made this post. So I don't care.

 

[Demi-fiend]

No one person can enforce their will upon another.

 

[berto]

Oh. I've had this conversation a few times with girls I'm friends with.

Do you feel as though it is in some way a criticism about you? Because let me tell you, porn is not the only way to make someone feel unattractive. I had a girlfriend once who was talking with a friend of hers about men, models and the lot. I was sitting right there and I didn't exactly feel appreciated by the way they were talking about those other dudes. However, I also talk about women with my friends and it's not as though I was unattracted to her nor did I wish she was someone else.

It's normal to be attracted to other people, if it wasn't fidelity wouldn't carry the same weight. You ever describe Vergil, I'm assuming Vergil because of the avatar and user name, with certain key words that imply how attractive he is? The only difference there is the sex.

Just to let you know, though, for a lot of men it's usually more about the act rather than the people involved when it comes to porn. If you still feel uncomfortable about it try talking with him. That's the best advice I can give without getting too intimate into your personal affairs.

 

[The Good Gentleman]

I've always found situations like these to become far less uncomfortable when you actually sit down to talk. When it's all bottled, the uncertainty just brews and could really negatively impact a relationship.

 

[V's patron]

I'm more with Berto and the Gentleman as there is no substitute for talking openly about things.

I think it does depend on the couple in general tho.

For Example, I had a female friend complain about her boyfriend watching porn but i thought it was just a symptom of the larger troubles she was going through with him. However Me and my own ex-girlfriend didnt have a problem with porn and it was funny to see her try to recommend one to me.

 

[V]

So is it OK if your in a relationship and your boyfriend watches porn? Would you accept it? Does it make you feel that he's not attracted to you anymore?

Whether it's OK is up to you... and them.

The context is what matters. In some relationships it's a no no, in others it's fine. Really depends on the individuals involved and their views, there's no blanket yeah or no here.

But since it's often an issue of trust... if you know the other person's attracted to you I guess it shouldn't matter. That kinda knowledge/trust needs time though

 

[Vergillicious]

Whether it's OK is up to you... and them.

The context is what matters. In some relationships it's a no no, in others it's fine. Really depends on the individuals involved and their views, there's no blanket yeah or no here.

But since it's often an issue of trust... if you know the other person's attracted to you I guess it shouldn't matter. That kinda knowledge/trust needs time though

But I don't feel that I'm good enough for him..I doubt and don't have faith nor believe..i have trust issues.. Bad

 

[Dante's Stalker]

Is it OK?
That depends on your view on porn and what reason he has for watching it.
Personally: HELL NAW. The only boobs my man's allowed to ogle are MINE (and whoever is showing off on GoT but that's okay because we watch it TOGETHER)

Would you accept it?
Again, totally depends on whether it bothers you or not.
Personally: In my younger days (gosh I feel old saying that), I was very against it. But the more I nagged at him about it, the more he watched in secret. So I figured, ah well, let's just let the cat out of the bag and let it be. So I started buying him porn mags, going to the hidden porn section at the video store (yes they do have those lol), etc. Over-indulge him in it. And then one day I thought, okay, I'm over this now, so I ripped up all his porn magazines and left it under his bed to clean up. Told him if I ever catch him watching porn without me again, he's going to be in super deep oop:, and we only watch when I'm in the mood for it.

Does it make you feel unattractive?
If it makes you feel like you're lacking something, talk to him about it.
Personally: early in our relationship, it made me feel insecure, which is why I guess I told him it's okay as long as I can monitor how much he watches. But nah. Have you seen those porn girls? I don't think they're pretty, or attractive, or appealing in any way. They just look like groomed, fake boobs who act like animals.

I mean seriously, if women are to get a complex about female porn stars being better looking than them, then guys should get an inferior complex at the size they are compared to male porn stars.

Porn is fake. Fake women, fake men, fake fun, fake story lines, corny music that makes me cringe. Fake and boring.

 

[Vergillicious]

Is it OK?
That depends on your view on porn and what reason he has for watching it.
Personally: HELL NAW. The only boobs my man's allowed to ogle are MINE (and whoever is showing off on GoT but that's okay because we watch it TOGETHER)

Would you accept it?
Again, totally depends on whether it bothers you or not.
Personally: In my younger days (gosh I feel old saying that), I was very against it. But the more I nagged at him about it, the more he watched in secret. So I figured, ah well, let's just let the cat out of the bag and let it be. So I started buying him porn mags, going to the hidden porn section at the video store (yes they do have those lol), etc. Over-indulge him in it. And then one day I thought, okay, I'm over this now, so I ripped up all his porn magazines and left it under his bed to clean up. Told him if I ever catch him watching porn without me again, he's going to be in super deep oop:, and we only watch when I'm in the mood for it.

Does it make you feel unattractive?
If it makes you feel like you're lacking something, talk to him about it.
Personally: early in our relationship, it made me feel insecure, which is why I guess I told him it's okay as long as I can monitor how much he watches. But nah. Have you seen those porn girls? I don't think they're pretty, or attractive, or appealing in any way. They just look like groomed, fake boobs who act like animals.

I mean seriously, if women are to get a complex about female porn stars being better looking than them, then guys should get an inferior complex at the size they are compared to male porn stars.

Porn is fake. Fake women, fake men, fake fun, fake story lines, corny music that makes me cringe. Fake and boring.

I just wouldn't feel right about asking him to not watch porn. I'm just a very insecure person. Not controlling but just insecure and that's where the jealousy comes in..ughhh..I hate it..

 

[berto]

Porn is fake. Fake women, fake men, fake fun, fake story lines, corny music that makes me cringe. Fake and boring.

Wait... what?

 

[Vergillicious]

Wait... what?

Porn is fake, it's just acting, their orgasims are not real.

 

[berto]

Porn is fake, it's just acting, their orgasims are not real.

...

Well...

Any other bubble's you'd like to burst? Perhaps you'd like to now tell me that there is no such thing as Santa:'(?

All those pizza girl... for nothing.

 

[Director Bison]

I mean seriously, if women are to get a complex about female porn stars being better looking than them, then guys should get an inferior complex at the size they are compared to male porn stars.

that's totally a thing with men you want to crush a man say he has a small dick

anyway i may not be the best one to ask since i have never been in a relationship but i am a man sooo

id say not to take it too hard
men just have urges from a primal level were hard wired to want to have as many babies as possible (some more then others)
if a guy is alone and feels the need he's going to do
it's cus of the build up of sperm if he doesn't release it from masturbation for a long time then he has a wet dream
it need to come out some how

watching porn is more for a physical need then anything else

now if your there and willing but he picks porn instead that's a different story

 

[V]

But I don't feel that I'm good enough for him..I doubt and don't have faith nor believe..i have trust issues.. Bad

That's what I mean. You need to know the person pretty well and have a trust there to know if their watching porn "means anything" (bad) or not. And that comes with time and experience with the particular person. Enough time and experience - and communication - and you will know.

Porn watching shouldn't kill a relationship. It's not like a lot of people don't do it before you meet them anyway, a habit they were probably already into. A lot of guys watch porn. And by a lot I think probably most of them. But it's not unreasonable to expect your guy to lay off the porn while he's around you - some people do have porn addiction though

 

[Vergillicious]

I've been with him almost 2 years..youd think I'd know him by now but I don't feel that I do. I feel that he hides a lot. He doesn't really talk to me.

 

[Demi-fiend]

I think you might be smothering him.

Maybe you should cool down a little.

 

[The Good Gentleman]

Porn is fake, it's just acting, their orgasims are not real.

I've seen some that definitely were real...

 

[Vergillicious]

I think I'm not meant to be in relationships