Is not rat, is hamster
- Feb 24, 2007
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My sister was diagnosed at 38 with what we like to call Super ADHD. Both conditions are harder to diagnose in females and she had to go private to get any sort of clinical help - I was there for the diagnostic process and it does indeed include childhood stuff, but that could vary from country to country. Her grades as a kid were always stellar but her behaviour could be slightly problematic in that she always had an answer for everything, talked back a bit, took lots of risks etc. She has destructive behaviours like the aforementioned risk taking, excessive drinking, and also is constantly on high alert, so her body is in a permanent state of stress. She and our mother (she calls her my mother now) have a terrible relationship, although nothing even close to wha you've experienced, and that has had an impact due to the way she perceived her upbringing in relation to things now.Been thinking a lot about ADD lately... I've been suspecting it for about a year, I think, since I learned that forgetting stuff, speaking too fast, not having any memory about what was I saying before a random noise interrupted me, having troubles listening the question in full before answering etc can be symptoms of adult ADD. I didn't seek any help for it, because I've thought I can fight it on my own when I know my challenges, but now that we're having a kid I think I have to get it examined properly in case it's hereditary.
Just that what I've heard, ADD should be observed in reflection to the childhood behaviour as well. What can I say about it? I have major blackouts about my childhood, thanks to CPTSD. I can only remember that even though I did well at school, my "good behaviour grade" was always C or even D and I struggled to have it, whereas other girls got A or B. I didn't seek to cause trouble, I wanted to be good, it just happened for stuff like "dancing around when pupils were supposed to stay on their place" or not having any impulse control at all with my words and ideas. On the other hand, my grades don't support any ADD issues.
So if it's not ADD, I'm fine with that and I'll just keep thinking I have to practice my memory, my rhythm of speech, and impulse control. But if it is a neuropsychological issue, I want it to be diagnosed right so if the kid has any trouble, hereditary chances in problems like this would be considered.
Pfft. I don't even know where to contact with this. "Hi, I've never been suspected to actually have issues like this, but I did a random Internet test about ADD and it says if you get over 70 points you'd have 95 % chance of having ADD, and I got 84. Is this hypochondria?"
She also is horribly forgetful, talks non stop sometimes about all kinds of things, whether they are pertinent to the conversation or not, doesn't sleep much, is highly self critical and has some other underlying things like possible dyslexia and a thing with her brain to do with the midline which means everything is literally crossed wires most of the time.
She was both relieved and gutted when she was diagnosed, and she keeps an eye on her two girls just in case. To be honest, one of mine is learning disabled and autistic so we've already got stuff in the family; my sister thinks I should be tested for ADD but my thinking is that I've managed this long, what difference would it make now? There's been some speculation that my amygdala didn't develop properly as a baby due to emotional neglect, but again I've managed this far and I haven't killed anyone...I think...
Tl;dr if you think you can get a decent clinician who will get it done in a decent timeframe, it might be worth getting evaluated. If nothing else, it'll give you peace of mind and keep you informed. Perhaps the first port of call would be a general doctor? I don't know how Finnish healthcare works, but in the UK the NHS can take up to two years to diagnose (currently) but privately takes 4 hours. Go figure.