I'm not very fond of physical touch or expressing emotions via hugs or caresses. Touching and hugging just feels too intimate for me, and especially hugging a friend or a relative just makes me uncomfortable. The only exception is, quite naturally, my spouse, and even in his case there are some restricted areas on my body that are not to be touched (e.g. my legs).
So it definitely didn't feel too good when a person just suddenly laid her hands on my stomach "to feel if the baby is kicking"...
I'm usually pretty ready to defend myself, but this person was someone who I deeply respect, who most likely just didn't think it through, and I couldn't come up with any way to stop her without hurting her feelings so I just stared at the nearest wall and tried to escape the situation mentally, without saying a word.
But now it has been several hours and damn, I feel filthy and exposed.
Just as a kind reminder for y'all: regardless of how much you like children, it's not your body. Hands off, ask first.
Honestly, it's like you become public property when you're pregnant. Or just fat in the wrong places
My current rant: if this is covid, can it just show up on the test once and for all? I'm getting sick and tired (no pun intended) of being ill with no real reason behind it. I need to go back to work, I need to get stuff done, I need to not feel like I've been run over by a truck made of cotton wool.
Definitely as a person who has an easily noticeable eye condition, and who has heard about it all through her school years, I am still not very confident with my body. And especially because I was really overweight for years*, I hate it when people stare at my abdomen. NOT TO EVEN MENTION someone just laying their hands on my stomach...
Oh, and some people also comment the size of my belly, which doesn't feel very nice either, but I can take it. After all, they're not saying I'm fat and ugly but being excited for the baby, so it's rather my problem than their problem.
* Not that I would be thin nowadays either, I'm still overweight, but not that bad. Lost a damn lot of excess fat after I started jogging last year and got rid of obsessional eating problems. Still proud of it! And I've got a post-labor training plan already
Get well soon. There were times when I was around 4-6 times per year in some kind of a flu or toncillitis or whatever, so I definitely recognize the frustration of not getting things done when you're sick. :/
Off topic: I know this not good idea to post this kinda topics but.....what in the world is this........this is beyond any beast (I know any game comes with heavy DRM or bad code) this....is....killer queen of PCs that make your PC bites za dusto , the dev is drunk on power for having too much messy codes (YanDev or Alex Mahan), I don't want any drama about the dev in forum, I see enough videos about this subject .
So, because our state-supported gambling monopoly got into a sh*tstorm after some ethical and moral scandals, the said gambling monopoly is no longer able to support the science, education and culture in my country.
When the government informed that they don't have money either and decided to cut funding from science, mainly from research grants and scholarships, I was furious. That was also why I abandoned the idea of proceeding in doctoral studies right after my graduation. With employment rate of 99 %, I can get easy money from getting a dayjob as a procurement lawyer, so if they are willing to make research this damn hard in Finland, so be it then.
But now they also informed that they will cut funding from libraries, museums, and performing arts. In the case of libraries, they will END THE WHOLE FUNDING of "less distributed literature" and "cultural magazines".
Which basically means that our government just decided to kill Literary Art and channel all the money to supporting Bulk Entertainment. As if Bulk Entertainers weren't already the only ones who can somewhat make money here by rewriting the same political thriller ten times, only with different characters. How sweet!